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Knowing and Doing the Will of God Through Relationships

Relationships play an important role on our lives. This is a vital step in knowing and doing the will of God. No man is an island. We all have some one to relate to. Most have families, a father, mother, brother, sister, wife, husband, son or daughter. We also have extended families. Each one in a family will interact with us differently according to their role in our relationship.

Our relationship with God depends on how much we know Him. From that source our other relationships are defined. We may not now this but this is very true. If our relationship to God is not tuned well, we will behave as just humans to others. Our relationship to God depends on how much practice you have in knowing and doing the will of God. If you do not know God your interaction with others is purely human.

Human interactions are always reaction and not action first. We tend to react to others from what they do to us. Divine interaction is always action regardless of their actions. God will teach us how to treat each others regardless of how they treat us. This is the fundamental difference between human and divine relationship.

Why is it important to act like Christ? We fear and suffer disappointment and discouragement from human reactions. These are by nature consequences for every action and reaction. When God acts it is out of love and not revenge or paying back. Human have this pay back mentality.

God operates from forgiveness, mercy and love and we do not by nature. That is why we need to learn knowing and doing the will of God on a daily basis. This will teach us to behave like God in our relationship with others through love, forgiveness and kindness.

If God forgave you and you are grateful, then it should show in your relations to others. You will be forgiving and loving, remembering what God has done for you. Instead of taking revenge you will forgive, instead of hating you will love and instead of lies and gossip you will talk lovingly about others. You will promote brotherly kindness and love.

It is not easy. But when you begin to practice knowing and doing the will of God it will become second nature for you. You will do because you will have strength from Him as you know and obey him.

Building a Stronger Relationship Over Time

Relationships grow and survive on communication and respect. They are like tender plants that need to be nurtured and grown into beautiful plants. In the din of every day life we often forget to pay attention to our relationships unless and until some crisis develops and we find that we have lost out on communication altogether. Go through the tips given below and practice them every day to build stronger relationships that last a lifetime.

1. Keep your communications going with all members in your family. It is important that you keep one to one communication constantly with all the members in your family including your mom, dad, sisters, grand parent, spouse, kids including extended family and your in laws. Healthy relationships are good for the well being of the entire family.

These are your supports in life and stand by you in times of crisis or joyous occasions. Be it weddings, birthdays or funerals, your family is the one that gets involved.

2. One other relationship that matters to you most outside of your immediate family is with your friends. Your friends are for a lifetime. Where ever they are and however they are as compared to your, it does not really matter because nothing comes in between your friendship. You should make time to spend quality time with your friends even if it is once a year. These relationships are for a lifetime and matter most to you.

Communicating with your friends and staying in touch with them via telephone or emails and exchanging information on what is happening with each other gives you immense happiness and strengthens the relationship. All it needs is very little time and keeping communication going.

3. Make life interesting for yourself as well as for others in your family. Do not forget birthdays and anniversaries and bring them gifts for the occasion. To gift something to some one you do not really need occasions. Spring surprises on people by bringing them flowers or gift them a book or take them out for a movie and treat or simply surprise them by coming home early one day.

These small little gestures can bring a smile on their faces and watching their eyes shine bright with joy and happiness gives you a lot of satisfaction. Relationships are meant to be loved and nurtured.

Hard times do come but then they do not last. However what help you to withstand the hardships is the strength of your relationships and the support of your family backing you during your hard times. Life is short and hence it is important that you remember to maintain your relationships and tell them that you love them everyday.

Quick Tips For Building a Positive Relationship

Everyone strives to build a positive relationship with those that are close to them. Believe it or not, we all want to be loved unconditionally and have safe loving relationships with those that mean most to us. And although we may think that those wants come naturally with our most stable relationships, the truth is, every relationship requires maintenance every now and again.

When it comes to building a positive relationship, having ups and downs is going to be unavoidable. You will be surprised to learn that going through the challenges and overcoming them can actually bring your relationships closer together and further the strength that is already present. Building a positive relationship can be a challenge, but with a few tips in mind, we can surely grow our relationships to that level of positivity we desire.

To ensure a good relationship between two people, both parties need to be open to each other’s outlooks. It’s not good when you both can’t express your different opinions and understand each other’s points of view. Keeping this in mind, it’s also not good to disagree with one another 80% of the time. The old saying is that opposites do attract, and while I find this can be true, keep in mind that there should be some sort of familiar grounds you can both balance on to help understand each other.

After you find balance between one another, realize that a positive relationship requires love and understanding from both people, it will not work if it is one sided. Give and take from both sides is paramount to its success.

With the give and take of a relationship comes patience. You are bound to have disagreements from time to time. There are some people who believe that they never argue within some of their relationships, and while this may be true, it’s actually healthy for you to disagree from time to time. Just remember that some relationships have moments that are tense, and whether this is due to outside conflict (i.e. stress) or actual problems within the relationship, remember that it is only temporary and that your relationship is worth fighting through any disagreement for. In some situations, it’s necessary to either find a solution to the problem or agree to disagree, without getting angry, and move on.

With this in mind, also remember that a positive relationship is not formed overnight and takes a certain amount of time to develop. Be patient and don’t push your relationship beyond where it is ready to be, such as a long term commitment from someone you have recently started dating. While it may feel like it’s going well, a positive relationship needs time to develop and grow in many areas, such as trusting one another. You should always allow all of your relationships to take their natural course and ensure nothing is being forced.

This being said, remember to give each other plenty of space. Allow others in your life to spend time with others and show that you trust your relationship enough that you don’t need to overcrowd one another. Some people can become too clingy and distrusting of others, unwilling to “share” them. This is not going to build a positive relationship as you run the risk of smothering your partner and potentially losing them altogether.

All in all, the final key to a positive relationship is to forget about thinking negatively. Try not to become jealous or have negative thoughts. If you do find yourself in a similar situation, reevaluate your relationship to determine how you can salvage it. The only way to build a positive relationship is to be just that, positive. Spending time with each other, doing things for each other and doing things together will ensure you are well on your way to building a wonderful, loving positive relationship that you both cherish and will hopefully last a lifetime.

Managing Your Relationships Successfully

Caught up in the buys lives, we forget or take for granted our relationships with our family and loved ones. While relationships thrive on communication and attention, we seem to forget to communicate and take people for granted unless and until we face a situation, which makes us realize this fact. Let it not be too late that the bridges are burnt. Adapt these tips in your life and learn to manage successfully your relationships.

1. As a member of the family, you have a relationship with every individual. Therefore it is important that you maintain a one to one relationship with all the members including your parents, brothers, sisters, kids, spouse including in laws and extended family. Keeping continuous communication going with each member is good for the well being of all in the family.

Remember always that these are the people who matter to you most and stand by you. They are there to celebrate each and every occasion be it a birthday party or wedding anniversary. They are beside you at funerals too.

2. Outside of our immediate family, the people who matter most are our friends. Our friends whom we grew up are never forgotten wherever they are and however they are. Friendships that are formed in childhood last a lifetime. But then you would need to take time to find your friends and keep in touch with them.

Spending quality time meeting your friends once in a while is very good for your health as it makes you very happy. In day-to-day life you can always take off a few minutes to catch up with a friend over the phone or via email to say hello and find out how he is doing. Just this communication is enough for friendships do not require much to be spoken.

3. You need not keep showing your family that you care for them only by words, but show them by deeds to. Very simple and mundane things can make people happy. When you remember some ones birthday and wish them early morning with a small present or present small gifts like books, flowers without any occasion or in appreciation of some gesture works wonders. You can even take your family out on a dinner followed by long drive or surprise them by taking leave and staying at home to help with cleaning.

You do not have to follow any protocol to show people that you care. Just follow your heart and do things in natural manner. A bit of thoughtfulness and care goes a long way in making others happy as well as making you happy.

Life has its ups and downs. While going is good, you have no dearth of friends and acquaintances; it is during hardships that you really find the strength to go on with the support and backing of your family and your relationships. Time and tide waits for none. As the poem goes, do not waste a single moment to let them know how much you love them.

Create Harmony by Focusing on Strengths

Often, we have an unconscious tendency to make judgments about ourselves and others. Sarah-Singer-Noire, in her High Impact Trainings, says “We are judgment making machines.” Within ourselves, it seems that we have an invisible scale from 1-10 whereby we make judgments and unconsciously “put a number on the head of ourselves and others.” Some people get a “1,” while others may get a “10,” or a “4.” The only problem is that when we put a number on someone’s head, they know it and so do we. It tends to separate and divide us. The standard by which we make these unconscious judgments often is some idealized image in our minds from childhood or the TV. For example, we may make judgments on the basis of beauty. Because we are not aware it, this process often is not discussed.

One way to overcome this unconscious tendency to make judgments is to look for strengths. When we focus on strengths, we have an opportunity to look at what others do well and enjoy. When we let them know what we appreciate, they feel acknowledged and accepted for who they are. Researcher, Barbara Fredrickson, in her recent book,” Positivity,” shares that these positive feelings broaden and build our relationships, especially when the ratio of positive to negative is 3:1. Our mindset begins to shift from “me vs. you” to “we are all in this together.” People become more creative, more willing to share their resources, and unify in times of stress. In this time of economic change and stress, the increased strength and bonding that happens from maintaining positive emotion, is critical for our happiness and success.